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Yes. I understand that. But it is presented to us women by the media as a lack of men having romantic relationships and it being the fault of women.
When women KNOW it is cuz men lack platonic relationships with each other. And it becomes ostracizing to us women when we are looked at as the problem and as the solution
Its like when boomers blamed millennials for ruining random businesses. When it was the businesses fault for not supplying stuff the new generations wanted to buy.
Men right now face an issue where they lack platonic relationships with EACH OTHER
But we women are often told to take accountability for this issue because we too can cause issues and or harm in the terms of dating. And or because we are actively choosing being single and living with our female friemds or family over getting married to men.
Maybe since you are a man, you don't understand how it is presented to us women by A) the media and by B) men
We are told we are the cause of the epidemic. And thus responsibile for fixing it.
But the male loneliness epidemic has NOTHING to do with the gender war at all. And 10000% to do with the fact men lack platonic relationships with each other.
No amount of accountability of women sucking at dating or being gold diggers is going to fix the lack of platonic relationships men lack with each other
If every woman got together and said "yes. We can also be shit partners and cheat and lie and manipulate" men would still be more lonely than women.
Because the solution is out of our hands. Men need men who understand men problems
Just like women need women who understand women problems. Unfortunately for men, we women have more women who seek women and understand and extend this understanding to each other and we form communities based on this.
Sometimes, not always. When men make men only communities it is still focused on women and the woes men face in getting women to like them. It isn't about seeking male friendship but rather to again, point the fingers at women (red pill stuff)
It is frustrating to see men struggle to connect with each other then make a meme about women not taking accountability for the male loneliness epidemic
When you, a man, yourself is saying we would understand it more if we understood its more about platonic relationships
WHICH WE KNOW. Which is why we get so frustrated at being blamed and asked to fix it and take accountability for something we are not at fault for.
Like women are at an all time high of being single
And so are men.
So, if women are better off not being in romantic relationships you have to ask why?
And the reason is because we women have support and friends and community we built with women for women
And men lack that. Which isn't our fault
Im mentioning fault because the meme is saying we need to take accountability. Women are way more single than we have ever been before. And EVERYONE is choosing to stay single
Women just have more friends. We are told to take accountability for men not having romantic prospects when we as women are CHOOSING singlehood and our friends over dealing and interacting with men on a romantic level.
At a certain point you must know we are aware of this.
However the rift cannot be solely left on us and blamed on us like the meme and so many men expect
Its like a bad divorce. Wife leaves a guy who repeatedly fails her. And he goes "i am so lonely now. Ylu need to get over yourself and get back with me"
And there are a ton of men who see it like that. They want women to take accountability for walking away from men. But won't look at why there is a mass exodus of women from men.
The blame is often entirely put on us women. And it gets tiring and ostracizing trying to explain why we are so tired and fatigued from dating men just to have them go "well, women can suck too"
And it is like no shit duh. But you are the ones asking us to come back to you and remedy things. We removed ourselves from dating men on purpose.
Because we were better single than dating men.
And im sorry for men. But but its really hard to listen to men when we try to express our side we are yelled down and told to shut up and that we are wrong and that we Don't know what we want (the trope that women don't know what we want) its like tons of men are finding themselves single. For a myriad of reason
And the same thing for women. But women have jobs and friends and families and communities outside of dating that men don't have
And thats the OBVIOUS problem and root cause of their issues
Is men depend on romantic relationships. And getting attention, sex, and love from women. That they neglect platonic relationships thus feel like they have no purpose outside of women
Which is not something we women should take accountability for
At the end of the day you said we women would be more caring about this issue if we knew what it was about. According to you, romantic loneliness
When we know that the true issue is a lack of male platonic friendship and community
Women are better off without romantic relationships because many women choose singlehood out of bad relationship experiences.
Its not the same as for men who singlehood is often not by choice and many have just not had any romantic attraction at all.
The reason women are better off isn't because they aren't lonely. Its because often times women don't deal with romantic loneliness and if they do its AFTER being in a relationship. Not specifically feeling unwanted romantically and never knowing what it feels to experience romance.