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Get the tests! Even if they wouldn’t change your decision to keep or terminate, you will want to have as much opportunity to prepare for whatever parenthood will look like for you both, whether that’s raising a healthy baby or a medically complicated one.
I agree with this 100% My son has Down syndrome and we didn’t know until his birth (prenatal screenings were negative). On the one hand I would’ve been much more anxious during pregnancy had I known. But I could’ve prepared for the NICU stay, specialists, and the ways in which our lives are different.
This. Even if the results don't change your decision to continue with the pregnancy, and even if they're a false positive, the point is to be prepared for what's to come.
I'm worried for you and your baby's relationship with bio dad.
Maybe that's the way to frame it? Despite being pro life, youd still liek the tests to know what kind of parenthood youre in for? To best prepare for how to care for your baby.
Plus by 12/13 weeks you'll see a whole little human. And I cannot explain how amazing that was to see. My husband was unsure about our first pregnancy and nervous we weren't ready, but when he saw his little girl at 12 weeks as a full little person with arms he was so excited. Therea lots of other things the first trimester screening does for you all as a family than tell you if there genetic abnormalities, and medical professionals will not push you to terminate if you dont want to following news that your baby has a trisonmy condition.
Good luck.
You should know if your child has down syndrome even if you're not going to about, if a child is born with downs they'll have a cardiologist in the delivery room, because there can be complications, your partner doesn't know what he's talking about
This is the crux of it op. He doesnt know what he is talking about so i think it is worth having a conversation about what yhis test means to you.
His only understanding at this point is this test tells people to abort babies. This isnt true but is his understanding. You need to explain that the test is harmless and is to help give pediatric drs as much info as possible, if the couple continues their pregnancy this info will help drs give baby the best care possible during and after birth.
While the gender doesnt matter (he is correct here you will love baby regardless) finding out more info is an excitong part of the process for you. You need him to join you and show enthusiasm, because for you its a moment of celebration and you need his support.
The tests do help with detection of good handful of conditions, which will help with getting the proper care. Also generally, standard childhood vaccines will be required to enter schools when the child is older.
It sounds like that guy is not doing proper research, but I am not sure that presenting data to him will change his mind. I would consider distancing from anyone who won't change their viewpoints after learning of new information. Prior to the birth is not supposed to be so stressful.
Not to mention if there are complications, they can do as much to help the baby grow appropriately.
Absolutely get the test. It will help you better prepare resources for your child!
100% agree! Also if the tests all come back negative (what is most likely) you have such a relief for the rest of your pregnancy.
At our 20 week appointment (with our now health 10 month old) we were told that she had something abnormal but not at all serious with her heart they called it abnormal within normal or something like that. Anyway, the doctor told us the only thing about it is that it is much more common in babies with down syndrome and it raised the likelihood that the baby might have Down syndrome and for us to get a test asap. That would have been such a mental load for me and therefore also physical whilst waiting for the results knowing that, however I had already had routine test done in my first trimester and that saved me from so much undue worry and pain in the following weeks. Something that was very good for me AND baby since I struggled already with very high blood pressure.
Take the test, it is still your choice what you do when knowing the results, no one will force you to terminate if you don’t want to!