I'm going to guess that you haven't actually been inside of a police station and reported something like this...

That is just simply NOT how the judicial system works in America. That all sounds like how it should work, and I do not disagree on that. Sadly though, I'm talking about how the system does work. There is a difference.

IF it was reported (and I'm going to just say, sure, they absolutely created a report for it which isn't always the case) and there were no charges brought against the person, the accusation would NOT factor into a future case. In fact the judge would say "this incident was already reported, and they chose to not press charges so it cannot be used in this case. It has already been evaluated before and would be unduly prejudicial."

What do I know though....it's almost like I've done this several times BEFORE. 🤔 🧐

For all OP knows to the contrary, her date might have a dozen complaints pending against him for this exact thing.

I'm going to ask you the same question I did with the other person.... Have you actually ever been to a police station (or even over the phone) and tried to report something like this?

They will not prosecute a case like this, especially given that she assaulted him back. I love that she slapped him, and while it sounds like it should be enough that she has a mark on her, it just isn't. There's zero proof on how she sustained the injury. No one else witnessed it, there's no video proof of it happening. It would absolutely be a he/she said and no charges will come from it.

I was in a precinct when a police officer took my report, which I had proof of and witnesses, and said that they're not going to investigate it. He said I should go and do the exact same thing my stalker did to me. Flat out told me to commit a serious crime while my witness was standing next to me.

It really, really does not. It sounds like she sure as hell DID stand up for herself, and that is fucking badass. What discourages more people from reporting is that the cases don't get investigated and if they do, it's extremely rare for charges to be pressed and even rarer for an abuser to be convicted and serve time. If we fix that then reporting rates would go up and more people would be legally held responsible.

I absolutely believe OP. She was assaulted. I reported being assaulted in the States. Absolute crickets.

Low conviction rate: A vanishingly small number of rapes end in conviction. Data from various sources indicates that for every 1,000 sexual assaults, about 25 to 28 perpetrators are sentenced to incarceration.

This means nearly 98% of perpetrators are never held fully accountable through the criminal justice system.

Conviction rate of reported cases: For cases that are reported to the police, the rate of conviction is low. An NBC News investigation of eight major U.S. cities found that less than 4% of reported sex crimes resulted in a conviction. Other reports suggest only 5 out of every 1,000 rapes committed ends in a felony conviction (0.5%).

Conviction rates at trial: When cases do go to trial, the conviction rate is higher. Research from the UK found a jury conviction rate for rape charges averaging 58% between 2007 and 2021. In the U.S. federal court system, one source noted that 10.1% of sexual abuse offenders were convicted at trial.

If it was as simple as just more reports need to be submitted, that'd be easier to fix. Just look at the UK vs US. In the US you are far less likely to get a conviction. It's not a difference in reporting, it's a difference in legal systems.

Like I posted earlier just look at Clarence Thomas, Brett Kavanaugh and Donald Trump. Look at the entertainment industry. People knew about Weinstein for a decade, same with Ellen, same with James Cordon, same with Cosby. It wasn't the justice system that held any of them accountable, it was the public outrage. CHANGE the system. Don't rely on just hoping the cop you report it to is a good one. And again, they don't decide if charges are filed.