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Perpetually single. I’m on track to be a real-life 40-year-old virgin, since I just turned 38 this year and haven’t even been kissed yet.
Tragically Hip reference, nice 👍
And that’s okay! Whether you find someone or not this is your life and you are doing it just fine if you’ve made it to almost 40!
That's a truly terrible response. You seem to not understand the concept of "involuntary". Imagine someone said to you "I'm homeless." And you'd respond: "And that’s okay! Whether you find shelter or not this is your life and you are doing it just fine if you’ve made it to almost 40!"
What the actual fuck.
I suggest reading this.
The difference is if you’re alive and well it doesn’t matter if you’re doing things a bit differently than everyone else, idk why it’s become a bad thing. Comparing it to homelessness is crazy but even then some people like being homeless and exploring 🤷♀️ Anything can happen in our lives so yes making it to 40 is great! Sex or no sex they are still here
Wizard virgin. Unleash yer magic, old wise one 🧙♂️
Sounds like a win to me.
I was a 26 year old virgin. I miss those days sometimes. Because when I actually started putting myself out there, I got heartbroken a number of times.
I’m passed you. It’s not fun.
I'm similar - just with massively more sexual violence added to this. As is typical for autistic and even worse AuDHD women.
58 and I have not had relationship with anyone for 23 yrs
💖💖💖💖
Your time will come!
In time, you will cum
Or not. And that’s okay too.
It's not "okay" to involuntarily not have something that is among the top spots of Maslov's hierarchy of needs! Not in the least. (I'd start with research on "polyvictimization" and "ostracism" and autism. Like this.)
“Love” and “family” as described in the hierarchy of needs are not limited to romantic attachment or genetic family. You can form loving non-physical relationships. No one is telling you to give up on people altogether. Just keep trying. If you find someone who likes you as much as you like them then great, if not, you’ll move on.
Sex, oxytocin, most cuddles as adults without children, mortgages, most financial help, most caring when you're sick and for many people who they spend almost all of their time with (which also limits who could even be a meaningful friend) are limited to the romantic partner (and apart from non-abusive sex all these can be given by some genetic family as well, if they had not been severely abusive cause "why did God punish me with a disabled kid" as in my case).
In fact, even close friendships of the quantity and quality that we would want (and that is extremely unusual for autism - which you'd know if you had instead of just down-voting me, actually clicked, read the abstract and be willing to learn something) do not have anywhere near the same mental or physical health well-being nor positive financial benefits of a romantic relationship. I recommend the neuroscientist Dr Stephanie Caccioppo's book "Wired for Love" on this. She is autistic too and her research is on the extreme mental and physical health effects of loneliness.
And also: "Since 1972 the General Social Survey (GSS) has asked a representative sample of US adults “… [are] you …very happy, pretty happy, or not too happy?” [...] Being married is the most important differentiator with a 30-percentage point happy-unhappy gap over the unmarried." (Source) Absolutely nothing can make up for that.
K, dude. Therapy is good for a lot of people too.
Sis, I am not a dude.
And if you, Auntie, cared at all about the experiences and views of neurodivergent people or anyone else, you'd know that weaponization of therapy is utterly shit behavior and also that it is not recommended for autistic folks because the few studies that we have show mental health to worsen in 96%!
Psychology in general has a huge replication problem, but all therapies we have were developed for neurotypical people.
I recommend the book "Autistic Surviva Guide to Therapy" for this - not to you, cause you don't care about disabled folks, but to anyone else who might need that resource.
Girls can be dudes too.
I am literally sitting in class and learning about Maslow's hierarchy of needs as I'm writing this.I took my phone to dcroll a bit and then read your comment by chance.This is freaking me out.
Turned 29 this year and same.
Same here
My mom was a nun for 17 years. She met my dad in her late 30s. They’ve been married for almost 45 years and are happy as can be.
I met the “love of my life” when I was 22 and he was 21. We got married and ended up splitting up 4 years later.
There’s no timeframe and sometimes finding someone later in life is better as you’re more settled into who you are and you know what you want
29 yrs old virgin. Never been kissed. I love it this way though.
become a monk
I’m in a fuck it mood. I just turned 40 but I’d kiss you. Damn. I sound like a ho. Sorry I just basically got dumped. I get high off making other people happy right now. Don’t mind me
I feel like I just saw into my own future with this comment. 29 and had one kiss in middle school. Nothing since then.
I aspire to be like you
it was a good movie though, and it did work out for him in the end he did find a real gem... don't lose hope!
I’m basically in the same boat, I turned 36 this year so I’m not far behind you
Definitely not fun shit sucks never thought he would want that for her seriously like you did all the shit to her literally still doing it how is that justified it’s nuts for absolutely no reason except for you to save face that is it ashamed of the actions you chose no one else and had zero consequences but the thought of consequences makes you want to do something that really will not go well I heard prison is not for people like y’all is she really worth the risk sounds moronic
I’m scared of this being my fate as a woman that’s never even been on a real date.
Every dog has its day I’m not afraid of that we all are on borrowed time keep your threats coming she’s really getting nervous now there’s no time like the present y not now you guys aren’t just inernet trolls huh fella like it’s getting serious I thought you were going let her get to 40 was she expensive already what 5-10 don’t low ball you can do better
But like, same.
Same
Hot girl summer
I'm you in 3 years if I don't sort myself out
I mean this in a very non-insulting and nonjudgemental way but how did this happen? You never ever dated? Never got drunk at a party and made out with someone? Or were you intentionally staying celibate?
At that point I would have definitely paid for a domme mommy by now
Not that one
I heard that there was a sextape
lol I got graffiti all over the Lincoln tunnel
Contact seth rogan. He can fix this!
Same. And I don’t care. I don’t love myself, but have learned I know I’ll never make anyone happy
Who cares.